I’m At that Age Where…

I’m enjoying life to the fullest.

I have worked hard for my money since I was 17 years old.  I have been blessed to never have been unemployed.  With hard work comes play, right?  Absolutely!  Honesty, now that I think about it, I don’t believe there has ever been a time in my adult working life that I haven’t lived my best life.  It’s just now (or since my mid-30s) that I’ve been more responsible. *wink*

Your approval is not necessary.

What grinds my gears the most is someone’s unsolicited opinion that has no value whatsoever.  Not only unsolicited, but also negative.  Those who have an opinion about my personal life, attire, finances, the way I move, etc.—mind your business!  I haven’t asked you for anything.  Not money, not time, and most definitely not your negative, critical opinion that does not benefit me. 

What was the point?  Why do you care?  Are you bored?  I’m happy and my family is happy.  That is what counts.  I honestly believe those that feel the need to voice their unsolicited negative opinions are unhappy with their lives or have nothing better to do.  Do they feel better trying to diminish others?  I say trying because there are people like me that do not take it personally.  I just look at them crazy, ignore what was said, and change the subject.  Sometimes a prayer or two is needed.   LOL 

No explanation is needed.

Say less!  I love these two words.  Saying less gives me peace and preserves my energy.  If you’ve asked me a question and I’ve given you a response, then that’s it.  If I’ve made a statement such as “I am unavailable” then that’s all that is needed.  Why do you need to know the reasons?  Is it necessary or is it that you just didn’t like my answer?  Do you want to debate?  I’m not here for it.  I said what I said.  Next subject please or better yet, conversation is over. 

Now, this isn’t always the case in every situation.  I choose what I want to elaborate on based on whether it’s worth my time, energy, or financial benefit.  Employers do not ask why PTO time is being taken, so why would I give additional information to someone who does not contribute to my finances?  I’m just saying.  Everything does not need to be explained nor do I wish for anyone to explain anything to me.  I have peace when I know less in most situations.  The way I move and the way I think is my business and no one else’s. 

My energy and peace are precious.

It’s all about me.  Self-care is important and that includes preserving my energy and peace.  I’m in control.  I refuse to allow others to take away my positive energy or my peace.  It can happen.  I set time limitations for those that I love and may need some time to vent.  Once time is up, negative energy will be shifted to positive energy.  How so, you ask?  Take control of the situation.  Ask about what good has happened, pray for them, and change the subject. 
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I’m thinking I needed to get a lot off my chest!  Cheers and thanks for reading!

About the Author

Connie is a contract compliance professional in the transportation industry. She has also been an entrepreneur for the past 13 years in the fields of tax preparation, insurance inspection and contract compliance administration. Connie began her corporate career in her early twenties, and she was always that one Black person in the department. This drove her to always do her best on every assignment and to confidently take on additional responsibility without hesitation.

​As the Chair of Hey Queen Hey, Interim Chair of Queen Be You and an active member in TRKBG, Connie encourages others to exude confidence in all that they do. Connie expects members to wake up with a positive attitude and ready to accept any challenge that may arise. Connie attended Regis University where she earned a BS in Business Administration with an emphasis in Accounting and Morgan State University (Business Professional Studies) where she obtained a certification in Contract Compliance Administration. Connie’s motto is: “If you have a problem, don’t complain about it without presenting a solution.